A Threat

Day 3: A Memory 

Too many memories lingering in my head now. But, let me tell you one particular memory that meant something to me. It was in one fine afternoon many years ago. My father and I were in Plaza Senayan. We sat below a giant clock which always have music on every hour. I was still a university student. Hadn't graduated while most of my friends in my year already graduated. I was left behind because I got stucked in my mini-thesis. 

I remember vividly what my father said that day. He said, "You have to finish your study this semester. Otherwise, you have to come back home and become a farmer." I considered that as a threat. A horrifying one. I didn't wanna go back home without finishing my degree and become a farmer. I didn't wanna be a failure. I ran away from home so I could study in my university. I didn't want to let my sacrifice go to waste. So, I worked my ass off to finish my study. I slept less than I used to. I sat in front of my laptop for hours to work on my mini-thesis. 

Fortunately, (if I'm not mistaken) less than four months it paid off. I finished my study. If it wasn't because of the threat that my father made, I guess I was still busy playing games and I would have graduated a year later. 

I told my father that I succeeded in defending my mini-thesis and I knew deep down inside he's very proud of me. Even though he's no longer with us, every thing that I do is to make him proud of me. I love my father so, so, so much.

And, that's about my one of memorable memories. What about yours? Care to share with me? 

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Among the Small Things

Day 2: Things that Make You Happy

Many things can make me happy. From a little compliment such as "You look great today" to someone singing me a song can put a smile on my face. They bring joy. 

Other things such as:

Watching funny videos or looking at jolly memes on Twitter.

Having good food. 

The smell of petrichor.

Shopping daily needs.

Buying skincare.

Eating pempek and somay.

Reading good books.

Writing on my blogs.

Watching good movies.

Friends calling or texting me asking how I'm doing.

And I still have plenty more to mention. Bottom line is little things can make me happy. What about you? What makes you happy?

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I am an ISFJ-A Individual

Day 1: Describe Your Personality

Like my friend, Kiki, wrote on her blog post, day one already started with a tough challenge: describing my personality. I'm always having difficulties to explain about myself. But, for the purpose of this challenge, please let me try with a help from 16personalities.com.

I had written about my personality test that was taken sometime in the past, but that was very brief. Now, using the same result from the same website, I would like to elaborate more, just like Kiki did. She's just such an inspiration. Ha, ha.

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Here's my complete profile. 

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Introvert

As you may see from a picture above that I'm 75% introverted. Yes, I'm an introvert. I realize that since a long time ago. I prefer to do things alone. I like being alone, because being in crowded space really drains my energy. For me, it takes a lot of effort to socialize. I also don't really like being in a spotlight. I enjoy more focused "alone time" activities, such as blogging, reading, watching movies or series, and listening to music. 

Observant

It says that I'm 59% observant. According to the website, being observant means "highly practical, pragmatic and down-to-earth. They tend to have strong habits and focus on what is happening or has already happened." It's not entirely match with the real me, I guess. Because I often overthink something that hasn't happened. 

Feeling

I'm 65% feeling individual. The description says "Feeling individuals are sensitive and emotionally expressive. They are more empathic and less competitive than Thinking types, and focus on social harmony and cooperation." Well, it's true. I feel that way.

Judging

I'm 64% judging. It says "Judging individuals are decisive, thorough and highly organized. They value clarity, predictability and closure, preferring structure and planning to spontaneity." I don't think it's entirely true. I'm not decisive, in fact, I'm a terrible decision maker. I'm neither thorough nor highly organized. Truth is I'm a disorganized. But, it's true that I prefer structure and planning to spontaneity.

Assertive

As a 64% assertive individual, it's supposed to be that I am "self-assured, even-tempered and resistant to stress. They refuse to worry too much and do not push themselves too hard when it comes to achieving goals." Well, yes, I'm more like relaxed and laid-back type. I'm not an ambitious one. 

For this post, I re-read the article explaining what ISFJ-A is. It restores the memory. I agree with the explanation in some place, but I also disagree in some other place. It doesn't describe me 100% correct, but it's okay though. Through this personality test I can understand more about myself. If you want to understand more about yourself, you can try to take the personality test from the website which link I have already given above. Please do share what you get in the comment section below!

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Let's Start Another Writing Challenge!

Suatu hari saya melihat tantangan menulis di linimasa Twitter saya sewaktu Lulu men-tweet-kan ini. Saya jadi tergoda untuk ikutan meski sebelumnya saya sudah pernah mengikuti 30 Days Writing Challenge. Anggap saja sebagai upaya agar blog ini tetap update. Dan upaya melemaskan jari. Dan sebuah upaya agar otak saya tetap aktif dipakai untuk menulis. Dan supaya selama masa PSBB ini saya tidak bosan-bosan banget.

Bagi yang belum pernah tahu, teman-teman bisa membacanya di sini. Kala itu, saya tidak mengikuti satu tantangan khusus. Saya hanya menuliskan apa saja yang saya mau tanpa terpaku dari satu challenge tertentu. Namun, untuk kali ini saya ingin mendisiplinkan diri mengikuti tantangan yang ada, yaitu ini:

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Akhir kata, sampai jumpa di tulisan perdana esok hari!

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Six Weeks of Changes

 *tulisan berikut adalah tulisan dari kakak tingkat saya di kampus dulu, yaitu Handriatno Waseso. Semoga teman-teman suka. Selamat menikmati!

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Beberapa tahun lalu saya pernah melatih sejumlah coach dari beberapa perusahaan dengan tema Six Weeks of Changes. Tema ini dipilih karena menurut bacaan pasar dari konsultan yang memperkerjakan saya untuk kegiatan ini, enam minggu adalah waktu yang tepat untuk menciptakan perubahan kebiasaan di korporasi. Tidak terlalu lama sekaligus cukup waktu. 

Saya diminta untuk merancang programnya. Dan akhirnya muncul gagasan kerangka besarnya dengan membagi kegiatan coaching dalam enam minggu. Ikhtisarnya adalah sebagai berikut:

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